For nearly two decades I have been collecting quotes from books, poems, and articles from some of the greatest artist, writers, and spiritual teachers of our time. These words have meant so much to me and I wanted a place to share many of the over six-hundred quotes that I’ve collected through the years. In addition to the famous quotes I have humbly included exposition on the inspiring words from those who have allowed themselves to be used by the divine work of creativity.
Quote 399 Series 3/12/2021
The book of Hebrews in the Bible says that faith is the “substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things unseen”. This does not bode well for me as I want to “see” it, tie a rope around its neck, and drag it along behind me so I can have it on reserve when I need it.
Several years ago, when my world had been flipped upside down, there were several situations to which I was trying to manipulate an outcome. I would hear instructions of “Keep the faith” or “Have faith in better days”. While the advice from loved ones seemed glib it left me wondering to what I was meant to have faith in.
In the authoritarian ministry in which I grew up as a child I was taught that my faith was in a God who ruled down upon me watching my every move waiting for me to either “do it right” or “mess up”. Since I have little interest in that kind of God I have taken to asking for the willingness to have faith in the action of faith itself. When I allow myself to do that I often see a small light the size of pinhole peeking out through immense darkness.
“Faith is the bird that feels the light and sings when the dawn is still dark.”
These words by Tagore Rabindranath speak truth with my experience of faith. Feeling the light while still living in darkness becomes a decision, and one that I am usually loath to make because I would rather be right than happy. However, at some point surrender comes in and smooths out the hard edges of my willfulness. I employ faith with the understanding that in doing so I needn’t cling so firmly to the rightness of my own misery.
When I teach classes I always tell my students that when we are practicing faith we are also practicing courage and risk, and the same is true in reverse. When we practice courage or risk we are also practicing the other two. So, there I am surrendering asking for courage to take the risk to become the bird of faith that believes the darkness will somehow abate.
I have no control of the outcome so in desperation I choose faith.
What is your song in the dark?
Cautiously Feeling Light,
Nathan Aaron
Quote 399 Series 12/4/2020
The first time I read the book, By the River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept by Paulo Coelho today’s quote spoke to my being with an extremely deep importance.
At the time that I was reading the book, I was very much in search of what I have come to call “the dream”. I was in a job that gave me little to no pleasure, and I felt lost. I desperately wanted to be someone that forsook everything to “follow their dream” and then subsequently by doing so all my questions would be answered.
The first three quarters of the text are all directives, that now when I look at them, seem quite out of reach. As I read them I begin to feel like Fievel and his sister from An American Tale singing “Somewhere Out There” with no “there” in sight to get too.
After years of making broad strokes of following dreams, and attempting dramatic transformations of life, I moved into a place where I realized that I may be reading the quote all wrong. The last two lines of the text have become an anchor for me.
“Be a warrior and be happy as you wage the good fight. Take risks.”
Here we are encouraged to be warriors, which also sounds large and dramatic, but then the text is quickly tempered with “and be happy” And there it is. A collective sigh of relief is heard when we realize that not only is happiness worth reaching for, but pursuing it is an important ingredient for all the preceding directives.
I have come to realize that I was pursuing the whole thing in the wrong way. Doing what makes me happy in my day to day actions will help me be able to follow my dreams, transform my life, and be a warrior.
It is often cautioned that pursing happiness is the same as living a self-indulgent life. While this could be debated for hours, please know that it is my experience that those talking points are tools used by those in authority to keep you under their control.
I am grateful to be able to look at this text in a different way. When I pursue happiness, I am able to follow dreams, heal, prophesy, listen, transform and take risks.
Are you willing to be happy?
Happily Seeking Happiness,
Nathan Aaron
Quote 399 Series 11/28/19
It was autumn 2006 and I was sitting on the edge of the bed in my best friend Bobby’s bedroom on 28 Mott Street in Chinatown in NYC and he had just finished reading me something that he had written. While I don’t remember exactly what it was, I do remember that I was so impressed with his sentence structure and use of language that I spoke up.
“That’s so beautiful! I’m not good at writing like that.”
After speaking those words, a feeling came over me that I could not identify until nearly three years later when I would begin doing the work of unblocking myself through creative recovery. I soon learned that the unidentifiable feeling that I had that day in late 2006 was the haunting of a pushed aside dream of being a writer.
Somewhere along the way I decided I wasn’t good enough to be a writer because I didn’t think I was smart enough, eloquent enough or a good enough wordsmith. If I think I will never be as good a writer as Faulkner, Hemingway, or McCullers, I may very well be right. However, I wasn’t called to tell the stories of Faulkner, Hemingway, or McCullers. I’m called to tell mine.
Fast forward 13 years later and I have claimed my place at the table with those who receive joy from telling their story. I have penned two manuscripts, and also have a website where I have curated a sampling of writing that I have done as a collection of my life’s work.
For me, it is often a struggle to begin writing but once I begin I am never more emotionally stable or happy than when I am doing this work. The reason being, is that I am not free to refuse to do the thing which brings me pleasure. Measuring myself against other writers is not productive. What is productive is basking in the joy and pleasure that it brings me.
I am grateful for that autumn day on 28 Mott Street in 2006 as it was the catalyst to remind me what it was that I had always wanted to do that would bring me great pleasure. Maybe what brings you immense pleasure is decorating, stamp collecting, or pencil drawings. It doesn’t matter what it is. It only matters that you do it.
Seeking Pleasure,
Nathan Aaron
Quote 399 Series 11/22/19
I have a confession. I have become a man obsessed with making French omelets. I make them, take photos of them, and show them to anyone who will sit still long enough to see them. One gloomy Saturday morning in late April while texting with a friend he asked what I would have for breakfast. Despite the fact that I had never made one I promptly wrote back, “I’ll be making a French omelet”. My lack of know-how didn’t deter my confidence.
Contrary to what one might assume the ingredients of a French omelet remain quite simple. For the most part they consist of: 2-3 fresh eggs, salt, pepper, fresh herbs, a small amount of goat cheese crumble and butter. Lots of butter. What makes this dish so delightful is not a list of complex ingredients, but rather the technique and process that is used to create a beautifully, fluffy, layered experience of gastronomy you will not soon forget.
As I was looking through my quote collection and came across today’s text by Mr. Tolstoy I marveled at how we, as humans, are much like the French omelet. We are comprised of simplicity, goodness and truth. Yet, It’s the process of how we live our lives that calls greatness into existence just as the technique used to prepare the omelet makes it great.
Some greatness can be measured. Those who write best-selling novels, design important buildings, or make groundbreaking scientific discoveries are all considered great and with good reason. They have done work that can be measured and have surpassed many in their field providing them with accolades that clarify their greatness to others.
Some greatness is not as easily measured. The empathetic smile at the stranger, helping the mother down the subway stairs with a stroller, deciding that today you will take a first step to deal with yourself so that you can stop patterns that have long plagued you.
The simplicity of the molecular ingredients that encompass each of us, are the same ingredients that give us the chance to make a great difference. Like the French omelet the technique we use to begin the process is what makes us great – be it large or small.
You are simple, good, and true. How will you use those ingredients to lean into your own particular process of greatness today?
Simple Good Truth,
Nathan Aaron
Quote 399 Series 11/15/19
More than two years ago I ended a long argument with myself about whether or not I should leave a very toxic work environment. I didn’t want to quit because I didn’t have anything lined up as I hadn’t applied for any other jobs because I didn’t know what I wanted to do. However, one bright, August, morning I sat down in my room in Astoria, Queens to meditate and posed a question to the universe. “How much longer must I endure my current situation?” I heard back:
“You will find out this morning.”
At some point in the morning I looked down at my phone, and had a voicemail from my boss telling me she was stopping payment on an invoice that was owed to me (she was running out of money but still wanted me to work for free). I had just received my answer. I crafted a resignation letter and sent it off that afternoon. I was shaking with fear as I moved into the unknown by taking that next right step. However, as I took that action I felt a spiritual door open and I knew I was heading in the right direction.
I wish I could tell you that after I followed my instinct that the universe rewarded me by providing me with a $10,000.00 check for simply obeying it. Sadly, that’s not the way it happened. I struggled to the point where I had to leave my home in NYC and accept my sister’s generous offer to stay with her in North Carolina (for nearly a year) while I sorted myself out.
Following your instinct will indeed lead you to your true destiny. The journey will grow darker before it becomes brighter but it will eventually get there as we take steps each day to follow our truth. In fact, Thich Nhat Hanh might say that we are in a state of arriving at our destiny each and every moment that we follow our instincts.
While my life has certainly not been a bed of roses since that morning in August 2017, I can tell you that I am much closer to my destiny for having followed my instinct.
Are you being asked to do something more? Quit a job? Take a class that you may not have the money for? Go on a pilgrimage?
Following Instincts,
Nathan Aaron
Quote 399 Series 11/8/19
I was recently having a conversation with a new acquaintance and we were giving each other a rundown of our lives by explaining what we did for fun. He informed me that his entire life was filled with work. Trying to be a supportive person who didn’t know him well I remarked that as long as it worked for him that was good. He then told me that it didn’t work for him, that he wanted to do more in his life, but he was comfortable and afraid of change so he felt his life would always stay the same.
As I thought about that conversation over the next several days this quote by Claude Bernard came into my mind. After reading it, I began to ruminate at how I am mostly grateful for the changes in my life because they have led me to where I am today. However, the reality of the text stating that I can learn nothing unless I am constantly moving from what is comfortable into the uncomfortable makes me want to retreat into a world of my own making.
My thoughts then turn to having to get out of bed on an early winter morning. It’s warm and inviting underneath a mélange of blankets. We know we must get up, but simply need five more minutes in bed. This is how I feel about the need of going from the known into the unknown. It is a necessary evil, but I always want five more minutes to soak up the familiarity of my surroundings just in case it never happens again. Yet, it always does.
At some point I begin to resent the constant movement and then wonder aloud why it’s so important to always be entering doors that are unknown. The answer that I hear back is that it keeps me humble while also providing me with adventures that my soul deeply longs for. However, when I am humbled by the unfamiliar and seek a solution, I am far more likely to employ the principles of faith and courage which are also paramount to my life’s journey.
Are you facing a situation that will cause you to move from the familiar into the unfamiliar that frightens you? Choosing courage and faith as our guides for humility and adventure will avail much.
Moving (Tentatively) Into the Unknown,
Nathan Aaron
Quote 399 Series 11/1/19
I recently finished reading a mystery novel by author, Louise Penny that was set in a small, idyllic, French Canadian village just outside of Montreal where a character, Myrna, was explaining to the Chief Inspector of the Surete du Quebec about the psychological concept of the “near enemy”. The concept is two emotions looking the same but are on opposite ends of the spectrum. Myrna explains that attachment/obsession has similar qualities as love – but vastly different. Pity looks like compassion but there is a power grab in pity that doesn’t exist in compassion and so on and so forth.
I began to mull over the concept of near enemies after reading that passage in the book and a couple of examples of near enemies emerged. One that stood out is perfectionism. Perfectionism, to the untrained eye, can look a lot like conscientiousness or productivity. The two share similar qualities but are different. Perfectionism is based in a false belief that if I cross every “t” and dot every “i” that I will finally be worthy of existence. Conscientiousness is focusing ourselves by doing the very best that we can, and accepting the results of that action as they come. Therefore perfectionism, and conscientiousness are near enemies.
“Have the courage to be imperfect”
Having the courage to be imperfect is something that will need to be practiced over and over. I won’t magically read the above quote and then manage to never fall down the rabbit hole of perfectionism because I’ve somehow been cured. No, it will be a daily struggle – at least for a while. Soon enough I will realize that my I am perfectly imperfect.
We are swiftly entering the holiday season which often presses many of us to our limits as we attempt to buy the best gifts for the family, take the most alluring dishes to the community dinner, or we strive to outdo the neighbors in the annual house decorating contest. By the time January 1 rolls around we are exhausted, hate the holidays, and we still have not achieved perfection.
When the rigidity of perfectionism threatens to overtake us courage will present itself as a travelling companion to lead us along a different path. It will be scary and likely unfamiliar, but it is necessary to our survival.
Will you choose courage in the face of perfectionism?
Im-perfectly,
Nathan Aaron
Quote 399 Series 7/12/19
When you grow up, as I did, in an extremely insular environment where the only people you have contact with belong to a small microcosm that revolves around one building it shrinks your world in a way that makes you think anything outside of that is big, scary, and most of all wrong.
In the cult-like ministry that I was reared in, a form of gaslighting was used to make us believe that those who weren’t involved in our group were somehow *wrong* or not as close to God. This was done in an effort to keep us in *check* so as to not stray too far away from the fold.
Fear is an interesting thing. It keeps life small, and doesn’t allow room for us to step outside the parameters that has been drawn for us. I recall being cautioned by the leadership of the ministry that if we followed our curiosity and began learning about alternative faith paths that it was possible that the devil would creep into our souls and open us up to demonic possession. We would then miss the treasure that God had for us because we had allowed ourselves to be deceived.
Yet here, Joseph Campbell’s words bust that theory to bits.
“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure that you seek.”
I remember the first time I allowed myself to entertain the thought of seeking spiritual enlightenment outside the realm of Christianity. I had been feeling called over the course of several months to explore other faith paths but I was terrified. I took courage and made an entry in my journal where I asked divine energy to open my heart to a much larger faith experience that was inclusive instead of exclusive. Crippled with fear after writing those words, I quickly added an addendum asking that divine energy protect me from myself and save me from demonic possession if in fact my seeking spiritual enlightenment outside the confines of Christianity was an act of rebellion.
It’s scary to step outside the boundaries of what you have been taught especially when you’ve been taught NOT to seek your own truth. However, when you seek and follow the thing that gives you excitement even when it’s shrouded in fear, the treasure you desire truly does await you.
What cave will you enter today?
Seeking Treasure,
Nathan Aaron
Quote 399 Series 6/28/2019
In America we are currently suffering from a strain of indifference that is polluting our humanity, causing stress between family and friends, and blinding us by using gaslighting tactics as a means of torture.
I’ve committed to be bold in love, and sometimes boldness requires stark truth. When I write I attempt to display diplomacy as my method of shining light. My goal is never to grind an ax for the mere sake of ax grinding. However, Elie Wiesel, author of today’s quote, warns against not taking sides and remaining neutral.
“Always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor never the tormented.”
Truly, Mr. Wiesel knew the importance of his own words. His writing, speeches, and humanitarian work which chronicled his time at Auschwitz and Buchenwald during the Holocaust helps us to see his commitment to his convictions. He worked until his death to fight for equal treatment of all Jews, as well as, many other human rights organizations.
As we come to the close of Gay Pride Month we are inspired by Mr. Wiesel not only by celebrating how far we’ve come, but to look ahead to what we still have left to do in the LGBTQ community. We can no longer play nice just to make it easier on other people that don’t like our “lifestyle”. We can no longer stay silent for fear that we may offend someone who has different “values” than we do. When you don’t want me to have the same human rights that you have, those aren’t values, dear ones. That’s called being prejudice.
We love and appreciate our allies and the work they do on our behalf. However, if you are as Mr. Wiesel says, remaining *neutral* you are not our ally. We do not live in a time when standing on the sidelines regarding issues of equality for everyone can be treated with disregard. In the 1960’s during the Civil Rights movement Black men and women were not satisfied with white people who stood watching on the sidelines doing nothing while they were being persecuted (and still are) and neither will we be satisfied with sideline gawking by people who don’t want to help us in our fight for equality within the LGBTQ community.
I say this in love…
Be silent no longer.
Always. Take. Sides.
Speaking Up,
Nathan Aaron
Quote 399 Series 6/14/19
From an early age we are instructed by our parents to be afraid of and then subsequently stay away from certain things for our own personal safety such as: cars careening down the street, being out alone in places that are not well lit, and not touching a hot stove. These are, of course, practical and helpful for us as we learn to discern what is safe and what is not.
As we become older we are faced with having to make these discernments on our own. Fear, while a helpful tool at times to keep us safe, can also paralyze us preventing us from moving forward in specific areas that would enrich our lives by giving new experiences with a diverse group of people.
“Fear is a natural moving closer to the truth.”
Today’s author, American Tibetan Buddhist, Pema Chodron dares to introduce the idea to us that when fear arises it is because we are naturally moving closer to truth – not adversity. Truth is scary, and it’s often easier to turn away from it. I know this from personal experience regarding my sexuality. I grew up in an environment with a strict holiness code that didn’t allow room for people within the LGBTQ community.
However, as I prayed for guidance, divine energy moved me toward my truth even if my truth was the very fear I was trying to escape. Soon, the sweet hand of divine grace assured me that I was loved, accepted, and exalted as the gay man I was created to be.
Many reduce Gay Pride Month as a trite and hedonistic display of ourselves, but in truth Gay Pride is about social justice because a Transgender woman named, Marsha P. Johnson and a few of her friends, finally decided that authenticity was more important than fear and began to fight back against their oppressors.
We have been trained in society to fear what we do not understand, and many do not understand those of us in the LGBTQ community. Many of our brothers and sisters still encounter hate-filled physical and verbal abuse – and in some cases, death - so we pray for the grace to move through the fear as we remember that Gay Pride began as a riot with a small group of people who believed in truth.
How will you stand for truth today?
Bravely,
Nathan Aaron
Quote 399 Series 4/12/19
A few weeks ago, I was sitting in a session with my therapist and like many of our conversations throughout the last six years it found its way back to the idea of shame. We had a beautifully deep conversation about its roots, not only for me personally, but for society at large. As I left the office that day I was intrigued by the deep reaching tentacles of shame that kept emerging and I wondered if there would ever be an end to this work. However, I felt hopeful because I knew that what I had already done with this less than desirable characteristic was proof that I could go deeper still.
Later that day I was walking swiftly (as we are prone to do in NYC) while running errands for work when I ducked out of the rain underneath some scaffolding. As I moved quickly with the rhythm of the travelers in front and behind me along W. 19th St. a small yellow sticker on the pole of the scaffolding caught my eye just as I passed it. Something told me to stop, and go back for a proper look. Obediently, I got out of the way of the walkers that surrounded me and made my way back to observe the yellow sticker with black writing. As I approached, I was delighted as to what I found waiting there.
“I look forward to the day I wake up without shame.” – @mylifeinyellow
Remembering the discussion with my therapist earlier that morning I smiled realizing that this was, what Sam Keen – author of today’s quote – might call;
“…a clandestine message addressed to me personally.”
Mr. Keen goes on to say that we should expect these things and more; casual blessings, omens, epiphanies, thunderbolts, instruction and of course a burning bush or two. These are not only our heritage but our birthright as our awareness of them becomes our expectation of them.
After having read this passage from Sam Keen’s book, Hymns to an Unknown God, I knew that I wanted to live this experience to the fullest. Since then I have had teachers who spoke unknowingly to my condition, experienced miracles, and have had more casual blessings that I can count all because I tuned into my awareness of them.
Will you dare to ask for secret messages and miracles?
Entering with Expectation,
Nathan Aaron
Quote 399 Series 3/29/2019
We live in a time when claiming an identity as an individual is very much in fashion, and yet I often wonder if the identities that we are claiming are authentic or simply another way for us to fit into whatever group is most popular.
I know this because I have done it myself. I have wanted to be accepted by this club or that church so I would identify with this interest or that philosophy hoping that it was obscure enough to make me look like an individual but still on the spectrum of what the *cool kids* would accept as interesting.
If today’s text from the novel, Siddhartha is true then it begs me to ask who exactly do I think I am, and why I am I running from it?
“You are not who you think you, but you are who you are looking.”
In the first few pages of this Hermann Hesse novel, it is explained to the reader how esteemed Siddhartha was by everyone around him in his village as they knew he would soon become a successful Brahman. However, Siddhartha gave way to internal discontent and decided he needed to “escape himself” to find purpose. The feeling of discontentment that we have is an old story where we want to run away from who we think we are because we think that there is some external source that will validate our worth giving us meaning.
Yet when we are pursuing our spiritual lives we find that what we are looking for is no further away than ourselves. We have learned this message in stories from the holy scriptures, novels, Hollywood (I’m looking at your Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz). We are perfect creations in the face of all that is in this life but still we continue to try on identities like winter coats hoping that the right garment will fit.
It will fit and it will be because we have found ourselves. When we find ourselves, we find our divine energy and when we find our divine energy we find ourselves. Flaws, beauty, complexities, gifts and all are part of our journey as we work our way back to truth for the most authentic experience of self-love and acceptance.
Will you take courage in the search for yourself outside of the cloak of discontentment?
Searching,
Nathan Aaron